Size Matters: A Beginner's Guide to Finding the Ideal Dildo - Oieffur

Size Matters: A Beginner's Guide to Finding the Ideal Dildo

## Introduction

There are so many options when it comes to finding the right sex toy. This beginner's guide aims to help you navigate the world of dildos as you start your journey to finding the perfect fit. With the right information and an open mind, choosing a dildo can be an exciting and empowering experience. Note that this guide is for educational purposes only and not medical advice. Always consult your doctor if you have any health-related concerns. The first and most important step to picking a dildo is getting to know yourself - your needs, preferences, and anatomy. By listening to your body first, you’ll be better equipped to find a dildo that provides maximum pleasure and comfort. Take your time, do your research, and remember to have fun along the way. The world of sex toys holds something for everyone when you know where to start looking.

## Know Yourself First

Before you start shopping for a dildo, it's important to understand your own body and preferences. This will help you select a dildo that provides maximum pleasure and comfort.

Take some time to explore your anatomy. Understanding where your sensitive spots are, like the G-spot or clitoris, can guide you in choosing a toy that will best stimulate those areas. Think about whether you prefer direct clitoral stimulation or indirect stimulation from a curved or textured shaft.

Consider your experience level as well. If you're new to penetration, start with something slim, smooth, and shorter in length. This will allow your body to gradually become accustomed to the sensation of penetration. More advanced users may prefer longer, thicker dildos or more intense textures.

Get in touch with your personal turn-ons. Do you like the feeling of fullness? Rotation or thrusting? Vibration? Figure out the types of stimulation and motion that feel best so you can find a dildo tailored to your preferences.

Take some time for self-exploration before choosing a dildo. Understanding your body and what gives you pleasure will set you up for success in finding the perfect toy. Don't be afraid to experiment and explore new sensations too.

## Types of Dildos

When choosing a dildo, one of the first decisions is whether you want a realistic or non-realistic design.

**Realistic dildos** are designed to look and feel like a real penis. They have detailed veining, textured skin, and often a suction cup base so they can be mounted. Some even have balls or simulate ejaculation with a reservoir for liquid that can be pumped out. Realistic dildos cater to those seeking a penetrative experience similar to intercourse with a penis.

**Non-realistic dildos** come in a variety of playful shapes, sizes, materials and colors. Some resemble vibrators with a smooth, sleek design optimized for penetration and stimulation. Others are more sculptural or artistic. There are glass dildos with interesting curves, double dildos designed for couples, large fantasy dildos, and dildos that resemble animals, fruits, veggies or other objects. Non-realistic dildos allow for more creativity and whimsy.

The choice between realistic versus non-realistic depends on your preferences and desires. Think about whether you want penetration to mimic intercourse or explore something more novel and different. There are excellent options in both categories.

## Size Matters

When choosing a dildo, size is an important consideration. The length and girth of the dildo can dramatically impact the experience and satisfaction you get from using it. Here are some tips on finding the right size dildo for you:

### Length

- Longer dildos allow you to experience deeper penetration and targeting of the G-spot or prostate. However, too long can be uncomfortable or difficult to accommodate.

- A good rule of thumb is to start with a dildo that is close to the length of your partner if you have one. If not, 5-7 inches is a moderate starting point.

- Consider your level of experience. Beginners may want to opt for a shorter dildo around 4-5 inches to start. More advanced users may prefer a longer 8+ inch dildo.

### Girth

- A dildo's girth or circumference determines how "filled up" it makes you feel upon insertion. Thicker dildos provide more stimulation of the vaginal or anal walls.

- For beginners, a slender dildo around 1-1.5 inches in diameter is recommended. As you become more accustomed, try incrementally increasing girth up to 2 inches wide or more.

- If mimicking a partner's anatomy, match girth as closely as possible for a familiar and natural feel.

### How to Measure

- To find your ideal length, insert fingers or a small dildo until you reach your deepest comfortable point of insertion. Measure the insertable length up to that point.

- For girth, use a flexible tape measure wrapped around the widest part of your partner's penis or existing dildo.

- When in doubt, start smaller and work your way up as you gain experience and figure out what feels best for your body.

## Materials

When choosing a dildo, one of the most important considerations is what material it's made from. Here's an overview of some of the most common options:

### Silicone

Silicone dildos are a popular choice because silicone is hygienic, durable, and retains heat well. Silicone has a realistic feel and comes in a huge variety of shapes, sizes, colors and textures. It's also non-porous, so it can be fully disinfected by boiling or using a bleach solution.

Pros:

- Body-safe and hypoallergenic
- Maintains temperature
- Soft, flexible feel
- Easy to clean
- Durable

Cons:

- More expensive than other materials
- Can pick up lint easily

### Glass

Glass dildos are made from medical grade borosilicate glass. They have a gorgeous, sleek aesthetic and can be warmed up or cooled down for temperature play. Glass is also completely non-porous and easy to sterilize.

Pros:

- Body-safe
- Conducts temperature for play
- Non-porous and hygienic
- Firm yet lightweight
- Unique aesthetic appeal

Cons:

- Not as resilient as silicone - can crack or shatter if dropped
- Usually lacks flex or give

### Metal

Like glass dildos, metal options provide temperature play possibilities. Stainless steel and aluminum are common choices, polished to a gleaming finish. These dildos have a futuristic, sleek look and feel.

Pros:

- Excellent heat conductor
- Non-porous
- Easy to sterilize
- Visually appealing
- Ultra-firm and rigid

Cons:

- Heavy weight
- May be too cold initially
- No flexibility

### Rubber

Jelly rubber dildos are inexpensive, flexible options often found in novelty shops. However, experts advise caution with these toys due to the porous nature of the rubber. They cannot be fully sterilized, so sharing is not recommended.

Pros:

- Inexpensive
- Flexible and soft

Cons:

- Porous material traps bacteria
- Chemical smell
- Not body safe
- Difficult to clean thoroughly
- Prone to damage

When considering materials, body-safe options like silicone, glass and metal are recommended for health and ease of cleaning. Porous rubber or vinyl materials are harder to sterilize. The material choice impacts stimulation, functionality, care and safety of your new dildo.

## Special Features

Dildos come with a variety of special features that can enhance pleasure and allow you to customize your experience. Here are some of the most popular special features to consider:

### Vibration

Vibrating dildos provide stimulation through vibrations of varying intensity. Some have multiple speeds and patterns to choose from. Vibrating dildos offer hands-free stimulation of the G-spot, prostate, or penile shaft. Some are controllable via remote or app to allow for long-distance play with a partner. Vibrating dildos require batteries or USB charging.

### Texture

Textured dildos have bumps, ribs, ridges, or other textures along the shaft to provide extra stimulation. The texture provides more sensation as the dildo moves in and out. Some textures target the G-spot or prostate. The texture provides tactile stimulation and variety.

### Curvature

Curved dildos are angled to better hit the G-spot or prostate. The curve allows the toy to rub against those sensitive internal areas with less effort. Curved dildos put pressure on the front vaginal wall or prostate with less vigorous thrusting required. Some dildos combine vibration and curvature for dual stimulation.

Special features like vibration, texture, and curvature allow for a more customizable and pleasurable experience. Consider which features will best enhance sensations based on your preferences.

## Lube It Up

Lube is an essential part of enjoying yourself with a dildo. The type of lube you choose can impact comfort and safety. Here's an overview of the main lube types:

### Water-Based Lubes

Water-based lubes are the most common and versatile. They're safe to use with all dildo materials, clean up easily with water, and dry more naturally than other lube types. However, they tend to dry out faster and may require reapplication during longer play sessions. Some popular water-based lube brands are K-Y Jelly, Astroglide, and Sliquid.

### Silicone-Based Lubes

Silicone lube provides a super slick, smooth sensation that lasts longer than water-based formulas. However, silicone lube can degrade silicone toys, so it's not compatible with 100% silicone dildos. It also takes more effort to wash off. Many enjoy using it sparingly for added glide. Wet Platinum and Pjur are popular brands.

### Oil-Based Lubes

Oils like coconut oil or massage oils can be used as natural lubricants. However, they are not compatible with latex condoms as they can break down the material. Oils also leave a residue and require soap and water to remove. While oils provide an ultra-smooth glide, they are higher maintenance than water or silicone-based lubes.

### Hybrid Lubes

Hybrid lubes aim to provide the best of both worlds by combining water and silicone. They last longer than water-based yet remain compatible with silicone toys. Brands like Sutil and Sliquid Sassy offer hybrid lubes worth trying out.

The key is choosing a lube tailored to your preferences and dildo material. Don't be shy with applying lube - the slicker the better for comfort and enjoyment.

## Safety First

When using a dildo, it's important to keep safety in mind to avoid injury or infection. Here are some tips:

**Cleaning**

Thoroughly clean your dildo before and after each use. Use a mild unscented soap and warm water. Make sure to reach all crevices. Never use harsh soaps or chemicals, as these can damage the material.

Pat dry with a lint-free cloth or allow to fully air dry. Store in a clean, dry place like a padded pouch. Never store dildos touching each other.

**Proper Storage**

Improper storage can lead to your dildo accumulating dust, dirt, and bacteria. Always store dildos separately in a clean, dry location. Keep in a smooth, non-porous container like plastic or silicone.

Avoid extreme temperatures and direct sunlight, as this can warp or degrade materials. Do not place heavy objects on top of your dildo during storage.

**Avoiding Injury**

- Use plenty of water-based lube to prevent friction and discomfort. Reapply frequently.

- Start slow and gentle until your body relaxes and opens up. Never force a dildo in.

- Stop if you feel pain. Numbing lubes should be avoided as they prevent you from feeling potential warning signs.

- Do not share dildos between partners without proper sterilization, as this can spread STIs. Use a new condom each time the dildo switches partners.

- Remove any suction cup or harness before inserting to avoid internal injury.

- Ensure any batteries are fresh before each use. Remove batteries during storage to prevent corrosion.

## Brands to Consider

When choosing a dildo, going with a reputable brand you can trust is advisable. Some established brands that are known for making high-quality, body-safe dildos include:

* **Fun Factory** - This German company has been making award-winning sex toys for over 20 years. Their dildos come in striking designs and bold colors. They use premium, medical-grade silicone and are phthalate-free.

* **Tantus** - Tantus is all about pleasure and safety. They only use 100% ultra-premium silicone and never use toxic materials. Their innovative dildos come in a wide array of shapes, sizes and colors.

* **Vixen Creations** - Vixen handcrafts their dildos from premium silicone right here in the USA. Their dual-density designs offer a realistic feel. Vixen Creations is committed to making body-safe, long-lasting products.

* **njoy** - This American company makes unique stainless steel dildos of the finest quality. Their nonporous designs can be sterilized for safety. njoy dildos have a nice weight and can be warmed or cooled for different sensations.

* **Glass Toys** - From Icicles to Crystal Delights, glass dildos from reputable makers offer a sleek, hard material for a unique experience. Just be sure glass toys are made from medical-grade borosilicate glass.

Go with trusted brands known for their commitment to body-safe materials and quality construction. Avoid cheap dildos of unknown origin, as these may contain toxic chemicals.
Investing in a high-quality dildo from a reputable company is the safest, most pleasurable option.

## Make It Fun

A dildo can provide amazing sensations during solo play, but bringing it into the bedroom with a partner opens up many exciting possibilities too. Get creative and don't be afraid to communicate desires, curiosities or boundaries with your partner.

### Solo Play

- Explore different motions, angles, speeds, and depths of penetration to find what feels best. Don't rush, but also try faster more vigorous motions if in the mood.

- Use your imagination and fantasize. Enhance sensations with music, candles, porn, erotica etc. Treat yourself!

- Try inserting your dildo while doing daily activities - it can be thrilling yet discreet. But be safe and aware of your surroundings.

- Position yourself in front of a mirror and watch the dildo slide in and out. The visual can be extremely arousing.

- Lubricate generously and stimulate other erogenous zones on your body at the same time.

- Edge yourself by bringing yourself close to orgasm then backing off. The eventual climax will be incredible.

### Partner Play

- Take turns being the giver - slide the dildo into your partner slowly while maintaining eye contact and verbal affirmation. Let them control speed and depth. Switch roles.

- One partner wears the dildo while receiving oral sex or hand stimulation from the other. Very intimate!

- Engage in gentle domination play - have your partner kneel before you while you stand wearing the dildo.

- Double penetrate using your penis and the dildo simultaneously in the vagina or anus. Go slowly and use lots of lube.

- Act out fantasies involving power play, gender play, or taboo scenarios. Discuss limits beforehand.

- Vary positions - cowgirl, doggy style, seated, spooning etc. Get creative!

- Make eye contact, communicate desires verbally, express your love. The emotional connection enhances the physical sensations.

- Let the dildo be part of foreplay then remove it before having sex. Or use it afterwards when you are still aroused.

- Take a shower or bath together with the dildo. Lots of slippery fun!

- Film your dildo play and watch it together later. Super sexy memories!

The key is to have fun, be safe, communicate, and let your inhibitions go. A dildo can greatly enhance solo and partner intimate play.